New article via Essence “20 Things to Know About Him Before You Get Serious” written by my brother Paul Carrick Brunson.

Recently, my cousin came to me for advice. She had been in a 3-month casual dating relationship and felt like it had the potential to become serious.

When I started asking her questions to gauge if she was ready, I realized that even though she had easily been on 20+ dates, talked on the phone for nearly 100 hours, and sent an endless number of text and Facebook messages to this guy, she knew NOTHING about what mattered for a long-term commitment.

When you decide to enter a serious relationship with someone, it is a very important decision. Therefore, I suggest it be well thought out. There are 20 things you should know before you get serious :

1. Where do they live?

Is that his crib, his boy’s, or his parents, you need to know!

2. Can you speak the same love language?

Knowing his and making sure he knows yours will ensure you both know you’re loved.

3. Does he meet your non-starters?

Be realistic about your deal breakers. Expecting to change someone is a plan that never works.

To read all 20 click on this link —> Essence.com