Via Essence 8 Reasons Why I Won’t Cheat on My Wife by Paul C. Brunson

Are you one of those women convinced that all men cheat? You better think again. ESSENCE.com’s Modern Day Matchmaker Paul Carrick Brunson says there’s “no way” he’d ever — ever! — cheat on his beloved wife. The reason, he tells us, should be obvious, but in case you’re still a little skeptical, here are the eight reasons why he knows he won’t go there. Become a believer.

This is an actual conversation that took place once between myself and a staffer (supplied by the venue) at one of my events:

Guy: C’mon son, I know you’re married, but don’t tell me you ain’t smashin’ none of these hotties that be comin’ to yo events?

Me: Nope.

Guy: C’mon son?

Me: Nope.

Guy: You crazy Paul, you crazy in the head… even if I was married I would be runnin’ all through them hoes.

Me: That’s because you haven’t grown up yet.

Wedding Vows Mean Something to Me

My mother truly etched this in my mind. I remember when I was a little boy, listening to her and my father argue, and asking if they would divorce. She would look back with a smile and say, “Our wedding vows were a promise made before the Lord. I don’t plan to break any promises I make before the Lord.” Now granted, my parents had verbal spats not WWF sessions, so I can see instances where divorce is a recourse, but the point my mother’s story drives at is about hearing and accepting those very powerful words in your wedding vow: “Do you promise to love, comfort, honor and keep them for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful only to them so long as you both shall live?”

I’d Never Step Out on Her

I’ve had enough with all the talk about why men and women cheat. Every time a celebrity gets caught cheating on their spouse the media rolls out all the “experts” to tell us the drivers behind why we men cheat. Most of the conversation is tongue-in-cheek with an undertone, especially for men, that implies that “everyone does it.” Well, Breaking News Update: Everyone does not cheat! As a matter of fact, based on all the research I can get my hands on, the overwhelming majority of data states that “most” of us (men and women in committed relationships) do not cheat.

Now that we have that out of the way, can we please put an end to the countless excuses and reasoning for those that do cheat? I mean, are Tiger and Arnold really “psychological sex addicts” or are they simply irresponsible and immature guys? I have a very simple theory when it comes to cheating: Those who do, haven’t grown up yet, point blank, period. Ladies who cheat are not real women and fellas who cheat are not real men. Cheating is a distinguishing line between the men and boys and the women and girls — one group understands, accepts, and takes responsibility, the other doesn’t. If I were able to spend some more time with the guy I was in the conversation with at my event, I would have gone into more detail to spell out to him the responsibility that real men and women undertake when in a committed relationship. I would have given him the eight reasons I don’t cheat on my wife.

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