Via Essence 12 Signs You’re Settling for the Holidays by Paul C. Brunson. My brother did an awesome job on this article. I agree with all 12 signs because I have personally experienced them in my past relationships…and no bueno! Here is what he has to say:

It may surprise you to know that the busiest period in the matchmaking industry is the holiday season. That’s right, it’s not Valentine’s Day, and it’s not the summer either. Why is the holiday so busy for us love professionals? Well, if you ask me, it boils down to one word: Pressure.

At no other time of the year do our family members (and society) place as much pressure on us to be married or en route to the altar than during the holidays. When you arrive home and a certain finger is without a ring, even if you’re the most self-assured single woman, it’s easy to feel shamed and notice the disappointment doled out by family members.

The pressure is so intense it can make you do some wild things! I’ve heard some women admit to buying fake engagement rings just to prevent the family from delivering ridicule and judgment over their single status. However, it gets worse…

Some women collapse under the pressure and make a tragic mistake — they settle. That’s right, that guy who has always been second best is thrown into the top spot against her better judgment.

How can you tell whether you’re settling for the holidays? Here are ten signs you might be missing.

1. He Embarrasses You

When it comes to relationships, our friends and family sometimes give us the worst advice — ever. But, if they’re all saying the same thing about your man, listen! When you’re in conversation with them and find you frequently have to rationalize his shortcomings, you could be settling.

He’s overcome a lot…He’s going through a rough time…He didn’t have good role models. These aren’t good excuses!

2. You’re Irritated

When you first fall in love, most people only see the best in each other. As a matter of fact, in the early stages of a relationship, we psychologically project our best qualities onto our partner. If you’re having a hard time seeing their best because only their worst screams out at you, watch out! “The little stuff” will only multiply and magnify with time.

3. You Get Jealous (A Lot!)

Do you ever find yourself feeling jealous over the relationships your girlfriends have with their significant others? Perhaps you say to yourself, “I wish my man would do that for me.” There is nothing wrong with wanting the best for your relationship, but if you find yourself wishing you were living in another woman’s shoes, it is not a good sign.

To read the rest of the 12 Signs You’re Settling for the Holidays click here –> Essence