Via Essence 7 Things He Doesn’t Need to Know About You Yet by Paul C. Brunson.
Be Smart Ladies
One of my mentors once told me that disclosure is the first step to transparency, and a lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity. While I agree wholeheartedly, I also believe disclosure should be served in pieces, especially in the early stages of building a relationship. Sadly, we must face the reality that there are a significant number of psychopaths, abusers and bullies on the dating scene, all of whom prey on information. Therefore, an early disclosure could directly harm you or your loved ones. My suggestion: Ladies, do NOT let him know everything about you right away. In particular, stay away from disclosing these things too early on.
I’ve heard contentious debate over whether or not the number of sexual partners you’ve had should be disclosed, ever. I’m on the side of transparency on this one, however, not when you first meet someone. On a first or second date, the person is just getting to know you, and quite frankly, your number is none of their business at that point.
Your Home and Work Address
I’ve literally had clients stalked at home or work by men they no longer wanted to be in a relationship with. NEVER let them see or know where you live or work early in the dating process.
Your Trials and Tribulations
We’ve all had to walk through the fire at some point in our lives; some of us more than others. Each of those journeys had a unique context, with it’s own circumstances and reasons, always too complex to simply sum up with a statement like “I’m a recovering alcoholic.” So why even go there? Keep those moments private until you know you’re with someone who is going to be around longer than a season.