Via Essence. How to Trust Again by Paul C. Brunson.

Trust can take a lifetime to build and only a second to lose. We’ve seen these words play out in the lives of countless public figures, among our friends and family, and for many of us, in our personal life.

As a part of my coaching and matchmaking consultation process, I conduct a “360 analysis” which includes interviews with my clients’ past spouses, dates, and friends. In nearly 100% of the cases, “loss of trust” was reported as an ingredient when a relationship ended. I often say that all relationships (personal, professional, and romantic) begin and end with trust.

With trust being such an integral part of our relationships, knowing how to manage it is imperative. In today’s piece, let’s focus on what to do when trust is lost and you want to regain it.

Here are 14 ways to rebuild trust…

Stop Lying

When we tell the truth, even when it isn’t pleasant, we become much more trustworthy. Becoming known as a person who doesn’t lie, even in tough times or moments of significant pressure, shows people your moral strength. Being appreciated for honesty sustains trustworthiness.

Do What You Say You’re Going to Do

The foundation of trust typically doesn’t break suddenly, it erodes over time. Keep your eye on the small things. Canceling or failing to follow through on simple tasks will create hairline fractures in your trustworthiness. Enough of those, and the foundation will crumble.

Don’t Ignore the Issues

Allowing any issue, no matter how small, to go unaddressed manifests into larger issues. Putting a problem off for later discussion or dismissing it with hopes of it being forgotten is the worst conflict resolution strategy. If you have an issue, address it, even if only to acknowledge it. When you start talking about a problem, you’re half way to resolving the problem.

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