Via Essence 20 Behaviors to Avoid If Your Looking For Love by Paul C. Brunson.

I just returned from an amazing trip to London where I hosted an event called The Big Conversation (click here to read a review). After my presentation, I had an interesting conversation with a young woman who questioned why she continually got into “bad relationships.” From our brief conversation, I was able to identify several bad habits possessed by men she dated, which ultimately thwarted the relationship.

I recommend one of my favorite books on the topic of interpersonal behavior — a category that applies to both platonic and romantic relationships. It’s called “What Got You Here Won’t Get You There” by Marshall Goldsmith. In the book, he describes 20 unhealthy behaviors which I suggest you be able to identify in order to fairly evaluate the potential of your relationship.

Here are 5 of the 20 behaviors to avoid. Read the rest here –>

1. Not Listening

The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect.

2. Adding Too Much Value

This is the “something to prove person.” The overwhelming desire to add their 2 cents to every discussion.


3. An Excessive Need to be “Them”

Exalting their faults as virtues simply because they’re who they are.


4. Clinging to the Past

The need to deflect blame away from themselves and onto events and people from their past; a subset of blaming everyone else.


5. Speaking When Angry

Using emotional volatility as a management tool never wins…just look at Scott Disick of Keeping Up With the Kardashians fame.